What was In the Wake of Her?
Beauty from Pain
The true story by Ryan Minti describes how after being ghosted by his beloved partner Maya, he entered a prolonged period of depression and confusion. Medication, Vacation, Dating... they all helped in their own way but the best cure for his emotional trauma wounds might be in the writing of the part memoir, part psychoanalytical tome for those interested in non-monogamy, BPD, attachment theory, and fixer syndrome.
Therapy Framework and Study Proposal
As well as some creative writing, In the Wake of Her, contains a frameworks for SSCPT, a new type of therapy that provides patients with clarity and validation to minimise their doubts and rumination about past events.
The Story Continues...
After Her
The 6 months following Minti's brutal discard by Maya, he re-entered the dating marketplace, having always been in the sexual marketplace, where people that he was physical with were looked at in a different light. Even Eolanda, his ex was a viable option if he thought she'd done the work in the year since they broke up. Amber too has blocked him. And many previous FWBs are coupling up in monogamous relationships.
Ryan's adventures are punctuated by searching conversations with many online and London-based relationship experts, any many huge life changes including surgery, motorbiking, joining the army, starting 2 businesses, and traveling to India, the crucible of Maya, that he might sympathise with her origin story.
Enter Her
Ryan is supported in his journey by the love of an Indian born adopted Italian girl, Bea, whose warm heart, affirming spirit, quiet comforting nature, and consistent words of validation and love keep him grounded and happy.
When Maya removes Ryan from the guestlist of one of her shows, character-assassinates Ryan to his best friend Priya, and emails him an all caps rant of unhinged allegations, Ryan is freed from the bonds of his incessant thought spirals and learns to live without the obsession of a girl who doesn't exist and maybe never did, but also to live with the deep wounds that this ghost of a woman caused.
Coming March 2026